Pain can be confusing and overwhelming. But asking the right questions can help you get the answers—and care—you deserve.
You might hear:
“We can’t find anything wrong.”
“Just rest.”
“It’s probably stress.”
Or the worst: “It’s all in your head.”
But here’s the truth: your pain is real and so is your right to understand it.
At Confluent Health, we believe knowledge is power. That’s why we created Pain, Misunderstood—and why we’re arming patients with tools to take control of their care.
Below are 5 essential questions to ask your provider when you’re navigating chronic or unexplained pain. Bring them to your next appointment. Use them as a guide. And remember: you deserve answers.
- What’s causing my pain—and could it be influenced by my nervous system?
Not all pain is caused by tissue damage. In fact, research shows that the nervous system plays a central role in chronic pain. Your provider should help you understand whether your pain may be due to nervous system sensitivity rather than ongoing injury. - Has my pain outlasted the normal healing time?
Chronic pain is defined as pain lasting more than 6 weeks. Most tissues heal within 3 to 6 months. If you’re still in pain long after an injury or surgery, it’s time to explore other causes—including changes in how your brain and nerves process pain. - How do stress, sleep, or emotions play a role in what I’m feeling?
Pain is a biopsychosocial experience—it’s shaped by your body, mind, and environment. Asking this question opens the door to a more complete, compassionate view of your pain story. - Are there non-medication-based treatments that can help?
Movement, education, and nervous system retraining are evidence-based strategies that work. Ask your provider if they offer, or can refer you to, treatments like physical therapy, pain neuroscience education, or mindfulness-based approaches. - Can you help me understand what pain neuroscience is?
Pain neuroscience education (PNE) helps patients understand the science behind their symptoms—and it’s been shown to reduce fear, improve outcomes, and increase confidence. If your provider isn’t familiar with it, it may be time to seek out someone who is.
“Find providers you trust—people who empower you to take control of your health.” – Stephen Clark
“People expect to live pain-free. Like it’s an American right. But that’s not true. We have to learn to live with our pain.” – Melinda Birch, Patient
“For years, I was told it was all in my head. It hurt.” – Maddie Sauer
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Perfect for bringing to appointments, sharing with family, or just remembering what to ask.